What Is A Friendship? #5

If you could find the perfect friend, what would be your blueprint?

You would probably choose someone who loves you just as you are
Someone who overlooks every negative act and still loves you without condition
You’d pick someone who accepts you without regarding qualifications or stature
You’d most likely want your new friend to be selfless, showing you love every day
You’d want them offering inspiration and comfort simply by listening before answering

Well, these are extremely hard qualities to come by – as well as challenging to be the one reciprocating, however friendships with these conditions can add POWERFUL meaning to our lives.

There are many ways we learn to be a friend…

Through the beginnings:
We begin to be a friend when 
Fall is here, hear the yell
Back to school, ring the bell
Brand new shoes, walking blues
Climb the fence, books and pens
I can tell that we are gonna be friends
I can tell that we are gonna be friends….
~The White Stripes

Through the hardships:
Ooh, making love and breaking hearts, it is a game for youth
But I’m not waiting on a lady
I’m just waiting on a friend
I’m just waiting on a friend, just waiting on a friend
Waiting on a friend, I’m just waiting on a friend
I’m just waiting on a friend, waiting on a friend

Uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, yeah
Uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, yeah…
~The Rolling Stones

Through even the harder of hardships:
Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there’s always tomorrow

Lean on me, when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
‘Til I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on…
~Bill Withers

And then there’s the better of friendships:
When you’re down and troubled
And you need a helping hand
And nothing, nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night

You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I’ll be there
You’ve got a friend…
~James Taylor & Carole King

And even the better still:
So no one told you life was gonna be this way
Your job’s a joke, you’re broke
Your love life’s D.O.A
It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear
When it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month
Or even your year, but

I’ll be there for you
(When the rain starts to pour)
I’ll be there for you
(Like I’ve been there before)
I’ll be there for you
(‘Cause you’re there for me too)…
~The Rembrandts

AT GRADUATION:
And so we talked all night about the rest of our lives
Where we’re gonna be when we turn twenty five
I keep thinking times will never change
Keep on thinking things will always be the same
But when we leave this year, we won’t be coming back
No more hanging out ’cause we’re on a different track
And if you got something that you need to say
You better say it right now ’cause you don’t have another day
Cause we’re moving on and we can’t slow down
These memories are playing like a film without sound
And I keep thinking of that night in June
I didn’t know much of love
But it came too soon
And there was me and you
And then we got real cool
Stay at home talking on the telephone with me
We’d get so excited, we’d get so scared
Laughing at ourselves thinking life’s not fair
And this is how it feels

As we go on
We remember
All the times we
Had together
And as our lives change
Come whatever
We will still be
Friends forever…
~Vitamin C

AFTER…we continue to build our “friendship chain” with:

Inspirational friendships
Some other folks might be
A little bit smarter than I am
Bigger and stronger too, maybe
But none of them will ever love you
The way I do, it’s me and you, boy

And as the years go by
Our friendship will never die
You’re gonna see it’s our destiny
You’ve got a friend in me
You’ve got a friend in me
You’ve got a friend in me…
~Randy Newman

Companionship!
Ooh you make me live
Whatever this world can give to me
It’s you you’re all I see
Ooh you make me live now honey
Ooh you make me live

Ooh you’re the best friend that I ever had
I’ve been with you such a long time
You’re my sunshine and I want you to know
That my feelings are true
I really love you
Oh you’re my best friend…
~QUEEN

Anytime you need a friend:
If you’re lonely
And need a friend
And troubles seem like
They never end
Just remember to keep the faith
And love will be there to light the way…
~Mariah Carey

NO MATTER WHAT – JUST KEEP ON, KEEPIN’ ON!
Keep smiling, keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
That’s what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I’ll be on your side forever more
That’s what friends are for…
~Written by Burt Bacharach and Carole Bayer Sager

Gonna get by with my friends, yeah
Oh I’m gonna get on by
Yes I’m gonna get on by

Me and my, me and my, me and my,
me and my, me and my friends!

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