The View #120

BEST FRIEND STATUS

“Friendship is not about to whom you know longer it’s about who came and never left your side.” ❤

 

Spouses Who Have This 1 View of Their Partner Are Twice as Happy in Life

~Melanie Curtin

There are a lot of reasons to get married. One is being in love. Another is wanting the tax break. Yet another is the desire to publicly commit to your best friend that you will be with him or her forever, no matter what. Until death parts you.

Now, science has proved a somewhat shocking concept: When it comes to having a fulfilling life, it’s that last part that matters the most. No, not the death part–the best friend status.

This science suggests that if you want a fulfilling partnership and satisfying life, there’s one question to add to the list that should arguably be put at the top:

Is he/she my best friend?

A best friend has your back.
A best friend supports your dreams.
A best friend is someone you can call anytime,
anywhere, without feeling like they’ll resent you for it.
They’re the person you put as an emergency contact,
and the first person you think about when something wonderful happens.
They know all your quirks (and love you anyway).
They can challenge you in deep ways,
because they know the ins and outs of your psyche (and love you anyway).
They’re the kind of person who’ll make soup
and draw you a bath when you’re sick, even if they’re busy,
because they genuinely want you to feel better.

And if you’re already married to the person you consider your best friend, then this kind of research determination is cause for celebration.

Why?
Because it proves what you’ve known all along: that you live a happier, healthier, richer life because of that gorgeous, flawed, sometimes grumpy, often generous, always interesting, perfectly imperfect person you chose to marry.

As Nietzsche said, “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”

“Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.”

~Elie Wiesel

❤ “A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.” ❤

~Elbert Hubbard

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